The Infertility Disease

I have been terrible at keeping this blog going. Partly because it is so time consuming when you are just learning and partly because I have a lot of other things going on in my life. I have decided to share them here as I don't talk about them otherwise. Sometimes I just feel the need to scream.

For about 10 years now I have been trying to conceive a child. I never had any luck until last June. I found out I was pregnant and was so excited. I did not tell anyone, besides my husband. Well I had to do a lot of ultrasounds since I am over 35. The Monday before the weekend I was going to share the news, I found out I lost the pregnancy. The baby stopped developing between 6-8 weeks. I was heart broken and still cannot understand why all of this is happening to me.

I just found out I was pregnant again in March. I had not even told my husband yet or my doctor as I had decided to tell the doctor after I was 8 weeks so I wouldn't have to have all those early ultrasounds and be worried. By 8 eight weeks they should hear a heartbeat. Anyway I started having pain in my side. At first, I thought I had pulled a muscle, it got more painful and harder to breathe.

I called the clinic and my doctor was on vacation so I had to see someone new. My pregnancy was confirmed and now they are concerned it is a tubal. So I had to come back the next day and see him again. To my surprise they wanted to admit me for emergency surgery right now! I was not prepared for that...I did not care for this doctor and felt very uncomfortable about the whole thing.

I had to call my husband tell him I was pregnant and the rest of it. He was at the lake 2 plus hours away planning to spend the weekend. He came home and got there just as I was going in for surgery. Sweet guy.

I wake up to find that it was not a tubal, but a few large cysts on my right ovary. So instead of removing the cysts the doctor takes my entire ovary and tube! I am still not sure how I feel about that. They say it is no different than having two except that you have less eggs. If I am having trouble conceiving with two how can one be better???

The good news was I was still pregnant... atleast for three more days. I had a miscarriage the following Monday. I called my own doctor's nurse on Tuesday and told them all this and how I wanted to come back to see my doctor. So I got to do that, but still no baby.

I am having a hard time with it all. What to do next? Do I try IVF, surrogacy, adoption or do I just keep trying to have it the natural way. The hard part is my husband has a 21 yr old child. He told me just before he turned 39 I had a year to have a child as he wanted to be done at 40. I did not agree. I told him I wanted more than one child and if it has taken this long why would I agree to a year. I told him I would have children without him if I had to. So he is doing this because otherwise we would be divorced and he did not want that. He will be 41 this yr and he is fine with life as is. So I find it hard to talk to him about it all. But why should all of his dreams come true and none of mine?

I just feel like I am going through it by myself. I just wanted some advice and to see if any of you have struggled with infertility and how you survived it.

Thanks for listening...........

Melody's dolls...do you know who they are?

This is a picture of my co-workers dolls. We are trying to identify them. These cute little girls don't have any markings on them. Anyone know who they might be.....even if we never find out we will love them!

Finding Time!

Wow, I was hoping to blog each day. Where does the time go? Well I'm going to keep on trying to add things, I've began to think my life must be pretty uneventful as I can't seem to think of things to blog about.

I did try something new on Friday 8th, I tasted strawberry whipped yogurt. You see I am a very picky eater and dislike many things. I have never liked the chunky yogurt, so I gave the whipped a try...it was better but would take several tries I think before I could say I liked it. There is just something about the taste of yogurt I don't care for, but I tried it!

I found out two of my co-workers at the group home like dolls too. Melody brought in some of her dolls to show me. I'll try and post them in the next day or so and maybe you can help us identify them.

I am going to Bemidji this Friday and plan to go to my favorite antique store. I hope I find some treasures. I can't wait, which means it's going to feel like a long week.

Hope your Sunday was super!

A year to learn new things!

This is my first ever blog. I did a google search and found Two Crazy Crafters and from their blog I found Lavender Dreams. I enjoy following them as I am an avid doll collector. I have a desire to share my dolls with the world and decided to give blogging a try. So it is a year to learn new things...it may take me awhile to figure out all this picture uploading and such...so please be patient. Here's hoping you all try something new in 2010!
Have a great day - Shelly